The recent happenings have proven that change is imminent. There have been conversations about how this change will affect every part of our lives. For me, this includes the way I buy. Towards the end of last year, I decided that I was going to start buying less. I will explain my reasons for finally adopting this philosophy of buying less.
Why I chose to Buy Less
It all started in 2015 when I was preparing to move back to Nigeria from the UK. I decided to buy clothes and shoes that will last me for the next three years. So the shopping spree began. St Stevens in Cardiff and Oxford Street in London became my hang out destination. I bought clothes from almost all the high street stores you could think of—Zara, H&M, Mango, DP, Topshop, River Island, Primark, etc. It felt fulfilling at the time. I even ordered some from online stores like Asos. When I had bought all the clothes shoes and bags I felt were enough to last me for 3 years, I bought my ticket and took a flight to the land I call home; Nigeria.
Fast forward to a year down the line, I began to lose interest in some of the clothes and shoes I bought. They didn’t feel or look good anymore. I added weight and some had gotten too tight. There wasn’t as much interest to hang out like I used to, so some of the dresses just hung pretty in the wardrobe taking space. This reminded me of how I engaged regularly in impulsive buying while in the UK, One friend enters a store to pick up a pair of shoes, and the rest of us go in with her and start buying things we did not need. Did I mention that I had boxes of clothes for charities in the UK just before I left for Nigeria? Phew! Then to add to it, the hot weather in Nigeria began to destroy some of my bags and shoes. Everything started to seem like a huge waste too me and I quickly realised that I didn’t need this much after all.
Distribution of Clothing Items
By the second year, I decided to give out most of my clothes and shoes. I began to give to charities and anyone interested in collecting some. I kept giving them in batches until I was able to declutter my wardrobe. But I still had a bunch left. There were so many new clothes that one of the charities I sent clothes to called to ask if I had mistakenly added some as most of them still had tags. But I knew it was time for them to go. However, I held unto the ones I was emotionally attached to.
Where I am with Buying Less
I haven’t done much shopping since I moved back, and that is because I have learnt to buy just what I need. I am very deliberate about what to buy for each occasion. This has helped me buy less and save money as I have thrown impulsive buying out the window. I must also add that I am not perfect yet, but the realisation of buying a few quality clothes that will last rather than buying a lot of clothes that wouldn’t hit me. This decision has given me a sense of contentment.
The Five -Piece French Wardrobe Philosophy of Buying
The five-piece French wardrobe philosophy is the one I have chosen to adopt. It is a way to organise your wardrobe based on the essentials. This doesn’t mean you will have only five pieces of clothing items in your wardrobe, it is just a guide on how to build your collection of basics, that is, clothes that you can easily pair with different items in your wardrobe, like jeans and tops. Then you can buy a few statement pieces at different seasons.
If you are thinking of buying less, this is the best time to start. Staying home for so long and not dressing up has taught us that the philosophy of buying less is one to embrace. It will take a while to get into, but you can start with the thought process. We do not have to buy a whole store, but just what we need. Everyone has their way, what is important is that you budget right and declutter your wardrobe till all that is in there is what you wear. One sure thing is, less is more.
What is your own philosophy of buying less? I would love to hear from you.
22 Comments
Donne
July 8, 2020 at 10:51 pmFor me, having a child and the responsibility that comes with that helped put things in perspective. Also, with ‘age’ comes wisdom – so I think I’ve gradually adopted a minimalist approach when it comes to buying clothes and shoes ( although the jury is still out on the shoes bit :)) I most times only buy things as and when I need them. Of course I do have my moments when I splurge, but this is mostly during sales as I do like a good bargain. I’m way over due for a declutter as I have too many things in my wardrobe that I don’t wear.
Etemi Vincent-Okeke
July 21, 2020 at 1:00 pmVery well said!!! you are off to a good start. I am also due for a further declutter lol!
vo
July 10, 2020 at 8:03 amI totally agree with this, the time for unnecessary “buying” is pretty much over. One has to start buying what is needed rather than what is wanted.
Etemi Vincent-Okeke
July 21, 2020 at 12:58 pmExactly. No more unnecessary buying.
Viv Ifueko
July 24, 2020 at 7:11 pmHmmm! Especially on Instagram, I find my self just buying and buying. Almost everyday am getting a delivery of something I bought online and most times, am sorely disappointed.
I should adopt this lifestyle. It sounds less choking🙂
Etemi Vincent-Okeke
July 26, 2020 at 3:10 pmLol! Viv, I know what you mean, loads of businesses on IG offering different catchy products. What can be annoying sometimes Is that they say no refund/return policy, you’re expected to accept the product even when dissatisfied. Well, this lifestyle has been less choking for me so you should try it.
Adeola
July 24, 2020 at 9:34 pmEtemi, thank you for this piece , I enjoyed reading your article .
I like to think I am striking a bargain with clothes and then by the time I am done I have spent an unnecessary and unplanned awful lot and then declutter and the mad cycle of buying and decluttering ensues again . How the lockdown has brought some sense to it all for me … though I must admit with shoes and bags and I am likely non repentant and that’s where I need to work on …
Lola K
July 26, 2020 at 10:19 amI absolutely love this article Etemi. I guess impulse buying takes different shapes for everyone.
Some buy clothes, some buy shoes, hubby loves gadgets and I buy books.📚😁
With three kids however, I have since learnt to work with a budget. “Almost” every penny has a job – all the way to what I can spend on myself per month.
Like you, I’m nowhere near perfect but we live, we learn.
😘😘
Etemi Vincent-Okeke
July 26, 2020 at 3:17 pmThank you Lola, in addition to clothes, books are my thing too, lol! Children will always act as a constant reminder that a budget is imperative. Yep, we learn everyday!!!!
Etemi Vincent-Okeke
July 26, 2020 at 3:06 pmThank you, Adeola, glad you enjoyed reading it. Lol! I like how you put it “… the mad cycle of buying and decluttering ensues again…’ hopefully we will get the balance soon.
Precious
July 24, 2020 at 10:20 pmWell written!
The pandemic has taught some of us that there’s so much we can live without, especially clothes.
I’m also someone that over the years, has bought too much clothes that I don’t even wear (I started selling off stuff on eBay after counting over 180 pairs of jeans!) I also gave a ton to charity and sent some to relatives in Nigeria.
I’m still learning to curb my shopping habits…
I’m still a work in progress when it comes to this aspect of my life 😊
Etemi Vincent-Okeke
July 26, 2020 at 3:01 pmThank you, Precious. Wow! 180 pairs of Jeans, and there I was thinking my almost 15 pairs were a lot. lol! But good a thing you sold most of your stuff on eBay, and yes! I’m still a work in progress too. We will get there eventually.
Nechia
July 27, 2020 at 6:00 amI totally enjoyed reading this, impulse buying has been my major weakness, I convince myself I need it, lol! Thank God for the lockdown, it has really opened my eyes to the futility of it all. Still a work in progress though…..
Etemi Vincent-Okeke
July 28, 2020 at 8:29 pmGlad you enjoyed it Nechia. lol, I convince myself too that I need it. We will get there soon.
Blecyn
July 27, 2020 at 7:23 amI personally shop less so I guess I’ve been a minimalist for a very long time. And I don’t like seeing too many clothes I don’t wear so I often offload my wardrobe before buying more. Though I have some clothes I have been attached to for a while now and can’t seem to let them go. I big on shoes, so I sort of buy a whole lot. But since last year I made the decision of never going for shoes that are not from known good brand, so since it is going to cost me more to get good shoes, I hold off shopping for shoes instead only shop quality. Erm who knows, if I hit the street or London it might be a whole different ball game hahahahaha. Your new take on shopping is really good and you’ve made a good decision. More is less they say.
Etemi Vincent-Okeke
July 28, 2020 at 8:10 pmWow Blecyn, really good to know you have been on the right track for long, still on my journey to minimalism. I like the idea of shopping quality products. I do hope you don’t go on a shopping spree when next you’re in London. Lol!!
Alero Somoye
July 27, 2020 at 5:39 pmVery insightful article, my own buying is mainly for my kids, I hardly shop for myself, but when I go to the mall I feel the need to buy for the kids impulsively. It is not easy but I know I have to
learn to plan my buying of clothes etc for them , rather than just seeing one nice dress or trousers etc and saying to myself, i think this will look nice on my kids.
Etemi Vincent-Okeke
July 28, 2020 at 7:21 pmThank you, Alero. I totally get what you mean. This is an interesting angle, and I am sure a lot of mothers can relate. Good a thing you are thinking of a better way to buy for the kids.
VO
July 28, 2020 at 5:56 pmLovely.
Etemi Vincent-Okeke
July 28, 2020 at 7:11 pmThank you
Dami Fagbemiro
December 13, 2021 at 5:17 amWell said Etemi. I must say that I was in the same shoes, but I learnt better. Another tip is never to plan your spends based on what funds you may be expecting Rather, utilise what you have available. I realised that if I plan to buy an item based on funds expected, by the time the funds become available, 8 out of 10 times, I would have lost interest. That way, you will also be able to cut unnecessary impulse buying.
Etemi Vincent-Okeke
February 3, 2022 at 2:29 pmThank you Dami for this extra point, so valid! and you’re right about the losing interest bit, happens all the time.