Let’s be real— there are times when motivation just seems out of reach. We all have those seasons when it’s nearly impossible to muster up the energy to get things done, even the tasks we genuinely want to accomplish. It’s a cycle: you know what you need to do, but the spark just isn’t there. Then, feelings of frustration and self-doubt start to creep in, making it even harder to move forward. If this sounds familiar, know that you’re not alone. We all face these times, and the good news is that there are ways to break free from the fog. Here’s a guide to navigating these tough seasons with compassion and practical steps.
Understanding and Accepting the Low Moments
The first step in regaining motivation is simply acknowledging where you are. We often make things harder by fighting against our own emotions and feeling guilty for not being productive. I have a badge for this one. However, allowing yourself to accept these feelings without judgment is powerful. Remember, this season doesn’t define your capabilities; it’s just a moment in time. Try to think of these phases as a reminder to pause, breathe, and reconnect with yourself.
Practice Self-Compassion
It’s easy to fall into a cycle of self-criticism when you’re not accomplishing as much as you’d like. But if there’s one thing that can make these tough times a little easier, it’s self-compassion. Treat yourself as you would a friend going through a rough patch. Forgive yourself for not being at your best, and remind yourself that it’s okay to take things slow. Giving yourself this grace can create the mental space needed to rediscover what genuinely motivates you.
Start Small and Build Momentum
When you’re feeling stuck, tackling even the smallest task can feel like an achievement. Start by setting tiny, achievable goals—something as simple as organising your workspace, reading for five minutes, or writing down one thing you’re grateful for. The key is to create small wins that build momentum and gradually make bigger tasks feel more achievable. Each small step forward reinforces the idea that progress is possible, even in low-energy times.
Celebrate Your Wins, No Matter How Small
One powerful way to build back your motivation is by celebrating each accomplishment, however minor it may seem. Did you finally reply to that email you’d been putting off? Celebrate it. Did you take that 30-minute walk you’ve been avoiding for a week? Celebrate it. Taking the time to appreciate these little wins reinforces a sense of achievement and reminds you that you’re moving forward, even if it’s slow. Acknowledging progress helps shift your mindset from what you haven’t done to what you are capable of doing.
Connect with Others and Seek Support
Isolation can often worsen feelings of stagnation and self-doubt. Reach out to a friend or loved one who can offer encouragement or even just a listening ear. Sometimes, a conversation with someone who cares about you can offer fresh perspectives and help break the cycle of negative self-talk. Remember, everyone goes through similar phases, and sometimes a simple chat can remind you that you’re not alone.
Try a Change of Scenery
If you’re feeling trapped by routine, a change of environment can do wonders for your mood and mindset. Even a short walk outside, a coffee at a different café, or sitting in a new spot at home can break up the monotony and spark new ideas. Changing your surroundings, even briefly, can create the mental shift needed to refresh your perspective.
Reflect on Your Why
Sometimes, motivation wanes because we lose sight of why we started. Take a few moments to reflect on why your goals matter to you in the first place. Reconnecting with your “why” can remind you of the bigger picture and the deeper meaning behind your actions. Often, revisiting the purpose behind our goals reignites that spark and brings back the motivation to keep pushing forward.
Remember That This is Just a Season
During times of low motivation, it’s essential to remind yourself that this is temporary. It’s just a season—one you’ll overcome. Take each day as it comes, and remember that you’ll eventually rise again. You’re allowed to have low points without letting them define your worth. Be patient with yourself and trust that, with time, you’ll regain your footing and be ready to tackle your goals once more.
Don’t Give Up on Yourself
Amid these challenging seasons, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed or even feel like giving up. But remember, you’ve overcome hard times before, and you will do it again. With patience, self-compassion, and small steps forward, you can rediscover your motivation and get back on track. Don’t give up on yourself. Embrace this season as a part of your journey, and trust that brighter days are just around the corner.
6 Comments
Uche Oladeji
November 1, 2024 at 8:18 pmI wish 90% of Nigeria’na can have access to this write up. (Online therapy) These are sure factors that can be of great help. People have forgotten that these little things can serve as an anti-depressant. In my low time, I visit my tomato plants,connect with my sisters or i change my environment (visiting my parents).
Thought I should share mine.
Thank you and Well done Orange & Steel.
Etemi Vincent-Okeke
November 1, 2024 at 9:42 pmAbsolutely! People neglect the little things a lot, but they are so needed. Love that you have a tomato plant😊. I’ve also found change of environment helpful for me too. And what can we do without our sisters, those endless hours on the phone can be therapeutic lol😃. Thanks for sharing ♥️
Oseme Thomas
November 2, 2024 at 4:00 amHelpful tips!! I really like ‘reflecting on the why’. We make resolutions and whys usually at the start of the year etc. However we really should put in regular checkins with ourselves to check are we still on track? Cos life happens we should not leave it for too long.
Also for me connecting with others is major, you may need support to jumpstart that zeal or motivation. I think what I have also realised is not been afraid to switch up these connections, cos that connection may have worked for a period or previously but they may not work again, switching up the connection seems all fresh again.
Thanks Orange & steel, lovely write up
Etemi Vincent-Okeke
November 2, 2024 at 10:51 amI totally agree with what you said about regular check-ins on our “why.” And yes to switch up the connections. Great points!
Adesola A
November 3, 2024 at 8:08 pmI totally agree to self compassion, we tend to be graceful to others whilst neglecting to be extend the grace to ourselves. Gratitude has been my motto for this year and I’ve seen how it’s lifted me up. I also tend to look at pics at how far I’ve come and the people God has given me the opportunity to connect with even if we don’t talk anymore. Good memories always has a way of uplifting one’s soul.
Lovely write up as always.
Etemi Vincent-Okeke
November 6, 2024 at 11:43 amYes, we need to learn to extend grace to ourselves. Honestly, I loved that you mentioned gratitude because it is so important. Like you, gratitude always uplifts me; it has a way of filling your heart with light. Thank you for stopping by.